One day last semester I discovered the show The Biggest Loser on hulu. I had heard from many friends that the show was amazing, so I watched al of the current season and have been following the new season as it goes. The basic premise is that a group of people compete in pairs to see who can lose the biggest percentage of body weight. (Not the point, but one thing I like about this show is it's focus on making a lifestyle change for the right reasons, not to look physically better.) Usually at the end of every week the person (or two people) who have lost the smallest percentage of body weight are in danger of going home.
One week the contestants were divided into teams with seven or so pairs per team. In this case, the team that had the lowest percentage of total weight lost would send home the worst-performing player. This season there were a lot of parent-children pairs, and the editing really focused on them and their turmoil about wanting to help their children stay on the show no matter what. How they interpreted that desire though was really interesting.
This is Moses and his daughter Kaylee. Moses was really worried about Kaylee going home, so he decided he would wake her up early every morning and do an extra workout on their own together. He pushed and motivated her harder that week than he had in the past, and they paid more attention to the meals they cooked and ate for themselves.
This is Denise and her daughter Sarah. Denise took the view of two other parents on her same team and decided to throw the weigh-in to make sure she was going home instead of her daughter. Denise purposely gained 8 pounds so she would be sent home. Other parents gained 1 or 3 pounds to protect their children.
Interesting fact: Both of these pairs are LDS. How each parent chose to tackle the situation at hand was interesting in light of the gospel, right? Moses gave his daughter the tools to succeed. He got Kaylee to care about her outcome and worked with her to make it happen. I imagine if Kaylee still had had to go home, they would have been content knowing they had done everything they could. On the other team, Denise and the other parents took it upon themselves to sacrifice for their children without telling them. They let their kids do whatever they wanted that week, knowing they would take the fall for them.
I'm not saying the sacrifice situation is bad; sometimes it is necessary. Think of Christ, who took one for the team for the rest of us to stay here "on the ranch" as the show calls it. But I prefer Moses' way of empowering his daughter Kaylee and sticking by the results "after all they could do". Instead of trying to avoid the possible outcome, they tackled it head on by doing their best. Denise took the consequence of her own actions, but did she teach her daughter to do the same?
Read part one.
Read part two.