[The Work Series]I. Deserving Your Dreams

Lately I've observed and experienced several things related to work I'd like to finally form into words. However, in order to avoid a monstrously long post, I am dividing my ideas up into a series of three. First is Deserving Your Dreams.

At almost any job it is easy to see see clearly divided groups of workers; those who are always looking for work to do, and those who are always looking for ways to get out of the work to do. Those who have a good work ethic are delightful to be around and make the load much easier on the rest of us. Those who are lacking in work ethic, however, get me annoyed because they are getting paid the same amount as the good workers.

I guess the easy thing is just to say, "someone else will do it." Because, since the world also has some good workers, it will (eventually). We have a lot of temptations not to work, like talking to our coworkers, eating snacks, texting, etc. But, as our boss said in a recent note, "there is always work to do if you look around for it."

Perhaps this bothers me more now that I am a supervisor, as it's easier to see how the Testing Center as a whole would work much more efficiently if people actually worked for their money. Also because when I was just a regular worker before becoming a supervisor, I worked hard. It wasn't that hard, why can't people just do it?

I also think of a song Mom introduced me to this Christmas Break. One of the phrases is, "nothing can compare to deserving your dreams," and it is so true. Not that being a supervisor was something I wished for every night before I went to bed, but I really hoped it would happen. And now that it did, I feel great. Not to be prideful, but I truly feel that I deserved that dream. I proved myself as a regular worker even when our boss and other supervisors weren't looking, and now that I'm in that position, I don't feel bad asking other people to get to work because I can say I did all that work, too, just like you!

I guess the moral of this part of the series is that it truly does feel better to know that you deserve your dreams. That you didn't get them just because you were in the right place at the right time, or they needed a body to fill a spot, or you tricked and manipulated your way to the top. Good work is rewarded with happiness.

“When our wagon gets stuck in the mud, God is much more likely to assist the man who gets out to push than the man who merely raises his voice in prayer—no matter how eloquent the oration." - President Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Looking for a Fence

In my introduction to teaching class last block, we read an article published in Boy's Life or The Friend or something about how a man's cattle always walked around trying to find where the fence was whenever they were put in a new pen or field. If there was no fence, the cattle would wander off and... something bad would happen to them. But once they found the fence (if there was one), they were content to stay inside it.

We discussed how students would push to find the fence in our classroom, but once they knew where it was, they would be content to live in it. I understood the concept, but found it hard to fathom how exactly those crazier kids would be ecstatic to be sitting in silence in my room one day.

Then I remembered one week of my substitute teaching at Tussing Elementary last spring. The kindergarten kids could not keep their bottoms in their seats even if I had put glue on their pants (which I didn't, that was just a simile so you could get an idea of the gravity of the situation). Finally I took a little whiteboard with me to our table and wrote everyone's name on it. I didn't tell them what it was for, but once the first kid released his bottom from the confines of the seat, I put a tally by his name. The kids were like "what is that for??!?!?!" I told them that I would put a mark down for every time their bottom wasn't in the chair, and if they got five marks, they wouldn't get their check on the treasure box chart for the day. Soon they got the idea and for the next few days I used it they sat in their seats very well. It worked so well that I didn't bring out the board a few days later. Imagine my surprise when one of the girls asked, "Can we do the chart for if we're sitting down again?"

As I thought about those two classes more the past few days, it hit me like an apple on the head that I am exactly the same way. I'm a rule follower. I'm a stickler all the way. I love directions and rubrics and expectations so I know exactly what I can do. In that way, perhaps I form too much of a fence around myself, one which makes it so I can only stand up and have no room to walk around in. The reason I say that is because I go crazy making decisions for myself. When there's no guidelines or a clear right and wrong choice and no visible fence, decisions are so hard! As a teenager I begged Mom & Dad to "give me a fence" and just tell me what to do. If they set the dimensions of my fence for me, I was more than happy to roam around in whatever decision they told me to make. BUT my parents must be super smart about those things, because they'd always tell me I needed to figure it out for myself.

One small instance I remember of this is when I asked my mom how to spell "summer" as a kid.
"How do you think it's spelled?" she asked.
"... with two m's?" I hesitated.
"That's right!"

Spelling isn't really that big of a deal, but even from a young age my parents wanted me to find and form my own fence within the larger fence they had set as my mother and father and followers of the gospel. They showed me the importance of building just the right fence; not too small, as I often made mine and paralyzed myself in person decision making, but not too big as to escape the gospel fence. To each, their own fence. It really does feel better when you know where it is.

The Classroom

Observing many different schools in my Intro to Teaching class has made me think about lots of things, but especially one thing this week: decorating my classroom. Come on, it has to look awesome and inviting and make history look cool, right??

I've been thinking about some things I might use...


curtains... for the windows? hahaha



make my own American flag...



Civil War memorabilia...



globes, painted for use as a chalkboard or not...



a giant world map, either vinyl or painted on something first.

Valentine's Day

Why do people hate Valentine's Day, when there's always this kind of love for them?

Falling

I was thinking about writing this post last night, and this morning I read my dad's post that was very similar to what I wanted to say. Thanks for the motivation, dad!

I recently downloaded this song from iTunes:


I thought it was all very lovely and romantic until I remembered an article dad had given me to read a long time ago. (I can't find the exact one, but here is a similar article.) Basically the idea was you don't "fall" in love, you choose to love each day. Although I still think the song is very beautiful, I think of one letter Kurt sent me:

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When I first read it I thought it was just one of those cute things he says. But really, now it makes me feel even more special and loved. He chose to love me. He's not a victim of chance or happenstance or infatuation or some love spell, he looked at all my faults and foibles and still chose to love me anyways. And for that, I will always be grateful!

P.S. Dad, I hope you enjoyed finally reading one of Kurt's letters, hahaha .=)

Why Have I Kept From Singing?

When I was home for the holidays I downloaded all of Enya's music onto my laptop. I have loved listening to her since my parents played her for us when we were babies, but I hadn't taken the time to take Enya with me to school yet. While I was listening to her albums the other day I heard this song, "How Can I Keep From Singing?" I had heard of the song before, but never actually listened to it (that I can recall). Coincidentally, this song was also the one I tried to help Megan and her friend Ben rehearse for their ward choir last night. When it came on again on my iPod tonight, I finally stopped to listen to the words.

My life goes on in endless song
Above earth's lamentations,
I hear the real, though far-off hymn
That hails a new creation.

Through all the tumult and the strife
I hear it's music ringing,
It sounds an echo in my soul.
How can I keep from singing?

While though the tempest loudly roars,
I hear the truth, it liveth.
And though the darkness 'round me close,
Songs in the night it giveth.

No storm can shake my inmost calm,
While to that rock I'm clinging.
Since love is lord of heaven and earth
How can I keep from singing?

When tyrants tremble in their fear
And hear their death knell ringing,
When friends rejoice both far and near
How can I keep from singing?

In prison cell and dungeon vile
Our thoughts to them are winging,
When friends by shame are undefiled
How can I keep from singing?

I was just talking yesterday about how I haven't really sung or nurtured my talents a lot since high school, and I can tell that my skills have definitely deteriorated. So why have I kept from singing? I have so many blessings and things and people to love and be thankful for.

So I resolve, even if it's just singing to myself in the shower or while I'm doing the dishes or cleaning my room, to return to singing. I can remember how joyful it made me feel, and I want to return to that.

Studies

This semester I decided I needed a structured study of the scriptures to help me learn more than just reading an Ensign article every night before I went to bed. I didn't want to add a Religion class, so I ordered the Book of Mormon student manual from lds.org (which, fun fact, was cheaper new and shipped to me than used in the Bookstore, but that's not the point). What's awesome is that the day after I ordered the manual, our bishop told our whole ward to read the Book of Mormon. I smiled and in my mind said, I'm already on it.

I just started yesterday, so I'm not far in, but one thing tonight caught my eye. In President Ezra Taft Benson's The Book of Mormon--Keystone of Our Religion talk in 1986, he said:

A second powerful testimony to the importance of the Book of Mormon is to note where the Lord placed its coming forth in the timetable of the unfolding Restoration. The only thing that preceded it was the First Vision. In that marvelous manifestation, the Prophet Joseph Smith learned the true nature of God and that God had a work for him to do. The coming forth of the Book of Mormon was the next thing to follow.

Think of that in terms of what it implies. The coming forth of the Book of Mormon preceded the restoration of the priesthood. It was published just a few days before the Church was organized. The Saints were given the Book of Mormon to read before they were given the revelations outlining such great doctrines as the three degrees of glory, celestial marriage, or work for the dead. It came before priesthood quorums and Church organization. Doesn’t this tell us something about how the Lord views this sacred work?

I knew the Book of Mormon was important, but I never fleshed it out in my mind that this book was almost the most important thing Heavenly Father wanted and needed to reveal to us. More important than organizing the Church or restoring the priesthood or any of the things I think of today as big doctrinal essentials. He wanted to get us the Book of Mormon as fast as he could because He knew the impact it could have to lead us to those other great and important things.

This reminded me of a story I overheard my sister Megan and her friend David talking a couple weeks ago. David was sharing about a family vacation spot that the same group of families had visited for over four generations. The man who owned the lake (or wherever it was), who wasn't a member, observed that those predominantly LDS families that always came together over the years could be divided into three groups: those that centered their lives on their family, on the Church, or on Christ. The man noticed that the families who centered their lives on Christ were the most likely to stay together and active in the Church.

Both of these experiences just remind me to get back to the basics. Yes, I love my family, and yes, I love the Church, but do I love Christ? Do I enjoy opening up His scriptures to learn of Him? That's one of my goals this year, to learn more about Christ through His scriptures and come to a firm knowledge that I do know and love Him.

The Power of Positive Thinking

For this week and next Tuesday half of my teaching class is gracing the halls of Scera Park Elementary School in Orem, and I am helping Mrs. Culliman's fourth grade class for three hours every day.

Today I was in charge of supervising the class's PE (which apparently there is no separate teacher for) while Mrs. Culliman received the guest speaker for the afternoon (he was from NASA, which is a different awesome story). They were playing a version of Capture the Flag and were getting very into it (as I am sure most fourth graders would). Side B finally scored, although the culprit had been tagged by a fellow from Side A before he crossed into safe territory. When Side A fellow (let's call him Justin, because I really haven't learned everyone's name yet, but he looks like my friend Justin) yelled that he had tagged Side B man (whose name I do know, but I still think he looks like this kid Brett from when I subbed at Tussing last summer), everyone (especially from Side B) wailed that only two-handed touches got people out. Justin went over to the corner and started to cry, and after I started the next round, I went over to him.

I feel that comforting children is a little hit or miss. In my experience, they either believe you and immediately get over it or ignore you. I really didn't think this was going to work very well, especially since I didn't even know Justin's real name, but I tried to let him know it wasn't his fault and he still did a really good job of tagging Brett. (I have also found this week that when I take the blame for things that go wrong, the kids get less angry.) I told him it was my fault for not letting everyone know that only a two-handed touch got people out, and said I would announce it to everyone so that wouldn't happen again.

I thought about taking the approach that this was just a game, and the next time they played it everyone would start out equal again, but obviously this "just a game" mattered to Justin. So I tried to pep him up and said that his team really needed him to make up that point to tie the game, and they couldn't get a point without him. I asked him to get back up and play when he was ready.

And guess what? That little dude totally scored the next point. I couldn't believe it. I didn't really believe he would take what I said so seriously, but the smile on Justin's face after he ran into the safety zone was incredible. (Of course there was the inevitable "I tagged him already!", "That's not fair!", "He cheated!" chants from the opposing side, but there was no way I was going to dismiss that point Justin had earned.)

What a testament to the power of positive thinking. I didn't really believe what I said myself, but the important thing is that Justin believed it, and he put it into action. I know it's typical for children to change moods quickly, but seriously, he just turned that failure right around into something game-changing. I was honored to give him a high-five as we headed back to class. If only I could believe those positive things I tell myself and others as easily as Justin did!

Lesson 1

My Responses After Teaching My First Lesson to my Intro to Education Class:

- Did I really claim that was a lesson?
- Why didn't I say anything I wanted to say?
- How did words actually come out of my mouth to form complete sentences?
- How did they really understand anything I said?
- I do NOT want to watch this on video.
- What just happened?


In better news, my boss just talked to me about becoming a supervisor on my shift! We'll see how things develop.

One One One One

Every New Year's Eve I write a journal entry, no matter how lackadaisical I've been about them in the past year. (Even this year, when I've been a super slug.) I usually write them into the same journal, but this year I will grace the internet with my annual thoughts instead.

I feel as if this year is the first one I have actually looked back on my past self with an objective eye. I've realized many things I've done aren't that great, but some aren't that bad. I've said in recent years that I feel grown up or old for the first time, but this year I truly feel like I grew up. That maybe I deserve to be named a year older. Even though I didn't take many new steps, I think looking back on my old steps has taught me new things.

I want to make 2011 my own year, but I don't know if I'm brave enough to do that yet. I want to be the leading lady in my own life instead of the best friend (thanks, The Holiday). I want to act instead of react, and stick with my decisions. Let's hope I can gather the gumption before 2011 gets too far along.