This blog used to be called theta. There wasn't really a purpose behind that; just the memory of the superficial joy I had in writing the symbol theta in high school math problems. (I'm a nerd, I'm aware.) Yesterday I was watching Law and Order: Criminal Intent and Goren said that the symbol theta represented death.
This started another round of name-planning, since, in fact, I do not want my blog to represent death. When I started thinking about it, though, it seemed a very fitting time to make a change. Yesterday was also my last day of student teaching. Today is a study day before my last finals week, during which I have no finals, because I was student teaching. Next week I will graduate after five wonderful years at BYU. In two weeks I will be back at home with my parents and no definitive plans to move elsewhere or begin a career.
Times are changing. It's hard to fathom that it's actually time for me to be an adult. I've begun to feel that feeling of terror that comes from not knowing what will happen next.
I wish I had some new and novel way to explain these pretty cliche feelings, but I got nothing. Nothing except time -- time to think, time to plan, time to worry, time to wait, time to grow. Thus, chronos was born.
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Sunday, May 27, 2012
Over My Head
It's interesting, having a blog... even though I haven't posted in a long time, I often still think of things in blog posts. How would I say this? That'd be funny to talk about. You should tell people that, that's important. Ever since I missed my annual ritual of writing some form of journal entry on the eve of my birthday (ok, the only proof I can find for you was from 2009, but trust me, all the rest are in my handwritten journals), I have felt more of a necessity to get back to blogging regularly. This desire may or may not also be enhanced by the fact that I am now home and it is much easier for Dad to bug me to blog again, haha.
So, new writings *may* be coming soon to a blog near you. For today, I wanted to share an idea that's been on my mind for a few weeks. It started when I was telling my family about the recent book I'd been reading, The Tipping Point (a very good book, by the way). It discusses some cool ideas and cites some interesting studies, some of which I shared. When I was finished explaining the concept of the book, Haleigh said, "Well, that all just went over my head!" In the discussion that followed in response, she said, "Most things go over my head. And I'm tall!" To which I said something to the effect of, "Maybe you've just been living all your life hunched over."
At the time, I was thinking of a legitimately very tall friend of mine who constantly hunches over so as to avoid too much attention. It wasn't until Dad brought attention to the potential philosophical and spiritual meanings of what I had said did I recognize them myself.
I sent these ideas to my friend currently on a mission in Peru. Here is what I sent:
"I've been thinking about it all week, and it reminded me of the scripture from 2 Nephi 1:23: 'Awake, my sons; put on the armor of righteousness. Shake off the chains with which ye are bound, and come forth out of obscurity, and arise from the dust. People hunch because they are lazy, afraid of bringing attention to themselves, ashamed, etc... similar reasons people avoid doing the right thing or following the gospel. It's when we arise from the dust, lift our heads out of the obscurity of mediocrity and straighten ourselves up to our full potential that we begin to live like Christ and become a more efficient conduit for the Spirit."
Since that email, I have recognized other references the Lord and His living prophets have made to this idea. "Living below our privilege" is actually a concept that's been spoken about lately several times. President Uchtdorf spoke to the Priesthood about it this past conference. I have changed his references to "brethren" and "priesthood" to more general terms that include the whole church:
The blessings of the gospel transcend our ability to comprehend. Faithful members of the Church can 'become … the elect of God.' They are 'sanctified by the Spirit unto the renewing of their bodies' and can ultimately receive 'all that [the] Father hath.'
....We are faced with a choice. We can be satisfied with a diminished experience as followers of Christ and settle for experiences far below our privileges. Or we can partake of an abundant feast of spiritual opportunity and universal blessings.
Sister Julie Beck also referenced the idea in her recent BYU Devotional address in January. She quoted concerns from President Packer, again specifically about the brethren, but also included an admonition for the sisters to "live up to [their] privilege" from the Prophet Joseph Smith.
It goes back to the reasons for "hunching" I suggested in my original email to my missionary friend. To give a somewhat silly literal example, today I played the organ in sacrament meeting. My former band teacher Mr. Flohre would be very proud, I sat up straight during the time I was on the bench but not playing, listening to the opening remarks. However, when the attention was turned to a boy's confirmation in front of the podium, I subconsciously relaxed and started to slouch. Then I thought, why did I do that? I realized it was because we were about to say a prayer, and no one would see me slouch.
No one would see me. I was literally hunching over because I was lazy. I am living below my privilege of having consistent perfect posture and carriage because I am too lazy to keep it up when no one's looking. Yes, I obviously put little effort in keeping my integrity of posture.
But seriously. It is easy to see how human nature and error can keep us from raising our head above what we have become used to see the glorious heavens that lay above.
As a last illustration of this idea, this past week I thought of the story of Plato's Cave. (I first became aware of this story, from Plato's book The Republic, in my high school band class, as we played the song, "Escape from Plato's Cave".)
Basically, Plato tells of a fictional tribe that is chained in a cave, facing the back wall, away from the sun and cave entrance. They are chained in a way so that they can not turn their heads; all they can see is the shadows of the world outside their cave. Since they have been chained this way since childhood, this is all they know, and all they believe the world to be.
One day, one of the prisoners frees himself and exits the cave. At first, he is irritated and annoyed as the bright sunlight pierces his eyes for the first time. But as he begins to get used to the light and develop this "new habit of sight", he recognizes the real, truer, and more vibrant images outside the cave that he only saw shadows of before. He runs back to tell his fellow tribe members, but they don't believe his accounts of something better, and put him to death.
I really like this story and how it goes along with the ideas of living below our privilege... we have seen shadows and small doses of Heavenly Father's greatness and love in our own lives, and maybe we think that's all there is. But there is love and power so much more invigorating and all-encompassing than we can ever imagine, if we only take it upon ourselves to escape our bonds and change our vision. As it was for the escaped prisoner, the change may be painful or irritating at first, but the glory of our new sight and recognition of our full potential and privilege will quickly replace all hurt.
May we no longer live letting things go over our heads; straighten up!
So, new writings *may* be coming soon to a blog near you. For today, I wanted to share an idea that's been on my mind for a few weeks. It started when I was telling my family about the recent book I'd been reading, The Tipping Point (a very good book, by the way). It discusses some cool ideas and cites some interesting studies, some of which I shared. When I was finished explaining the concept of the book, Haleigh said, "Well, that all just went over my head!" In the discussion that followed in response, she said, "Most things go over my head. And I'm tall!" To which I said something to the effect of, "Maybe you've just been living all your life hunched over."
At the time, I was thinking of a legitimately very tall friend of mine who constantly hunches over so as to avoid too much attention. It wasn't until Dad brought attention to the potential philosophical and spiritual meanings of what I had said did I recognize them myself.
I sent these ideas to my friend currently on a mission in Peru. Here is what I sent:
"I've been thinking about it all week, and it reminded me of the scripture from 2 Nephi 1:23: 'Awake, my sons; put on the armor of righteousness. Shake off the chains with which ye are bound, and come forth out of obscurity, and arise from the dust. People hunch because they are lazy, afraid of bringing attention to themselves, ashamed, etc... similar reasons people avoid doing the right thing or following the gospel. It's when we arise from the dust, lift our heads out of the obscurity of mediocrity and straighten ourselves up to our full potential that we begin to live like Christ and become a more efficient conduit for the Spirit."
Since that email, I have recognized other references the Lord and His living prophets have made to this idea. "Living below our privilege" is actually a concept that's been spoken about lately several times. President Uchtdorf spoke to the Priesthood about it this past conference. I have changed his references to "brethren" and "priesthood" to more general terms that include the whole church:
The blessings of the gospel transcend our ability to comprehend. Faithful members of the Church can 'become … the elect of God.' They are 'sanctified by the Spirit unto the renewing of their bodies' and can ultimately receive 'all that [the] Father hath.'
....We are faced with a choice. We can be satisfied with a diminished experience as followers of Christ and settle for experiences far below our privileges. Or we can partake of an abundant feast of spiritual opportunity and universal blessings.
Sister Julie Beck also referenced the idea in her recent BYU Devotional address in January. She quoted concerns from President Packer, again specifically about the brethren, but also included an admonition for the sisters to "live up to [their] privilege" from the Prophet Joseph Smith.
It goes back to the reasons for "hunching" I suggested in my original email to my missionary friend. To give a somewhat silly literal example, today I played the organ in sacrament meeting. My former band teacher Mr. Flohre would be very proud, I sat up straight during the time I was on the bench but not playing, listening to the opening remarks. However, when the attention was turned to a boy's confirmation in front of the podium, I subconsciously relaxed and started to slouch. Then I thought, why did I do that? I realized it was because we were about to say a prayer, and no one would see me slouch.
No one would see me. I was literally hunching over because I was lazy. I am living below my privilege of having consistent perfect posture and carriage because I am too lazy to keep it up when no one's looking. Yes, I obviously put little effort in keeping my integrity of posture.
But seriously. It is easy to see how human nature and error can keep us from raising our head above what we have become used to see the glorious heavens that lay above.
As a last illustration of this idea, this past week I thought of the story of Plato's Cave. (I first became aware of this story, from Plato's book The Republic, in my high school band class, as we played the song, "Escape from Plato's Cave".)
Basically, Plato tells of a fictional tribe that is chained in a cave, facing the back wall, away from the sun and cave entrance. They are chained in a way so that they can not turn their heads; all they can see is the shadows of the world outside their cave. Since they have been chained this way since childhood, this is all they know, and all they believe the world to be.
One day, one of the prisoners frees himself and exits the cave. At first, he is irritated and annoyed as the bright sunlight pierces his eyes for the first time. But as he begins to get used to the light and develop this "new habit of sight", he recognizes the real, truer, and more vibrant images outside the cave that he only saw shadows of before. He runs back to tell his fellow tribe members, but they don't believe his accounts of something better, and put him to death.
I really like this story and how it goes along with the ideas of living below our privilege... we have seen shadows and small doses of Heavenly Father's greatness and love in our own lives, and maybe we think that's all there is. But there is love and power so much more invigorating and all-encompassing than we can ever imagine, if we only take it upon ourselves to escape our bonds and change our vision. As it was for the escaped prisoner, the change may be painful or irritating at first, but the glory of our new sight and recognition of our full potential and privilege will quickly replace all hurt.
May we no longer live letting things go over our heads; straighten up!
Saturday, December 31, 2011
It's That Time Again
It is been a tradition of mine for many years to write a blog post on New Year's Eve reminiscing over the past year. Though as the years have passed I have gotten worse with my regular journal writing, I have stuck pretty well to this New Year's Eve thing.
This year has brought many struggles, just like any other year and for anyone else, I am sure. But I am happy to report a few of my highlights from 2011:
- I started and completed most of my education classes and made amazing teacher friends
- I worked as a night shift supervisor at the Testing Center, on the best shifts ever
- Megan and Josh got married! & I helped plan their reception here in Virginia
- I returned to the daycare I worked at in high school to work for the summer, and the kids were awesome
- I moved to a new apartment with my own room and rockin' roommates
- I learned to turn to the Lord and fight for my rights with my TESOL minor
- The whole family was together for Chrismas and New Year's
- Kurt came back from his mission!!!!
The years just keep getting better and better though, so bring 'em on! 2012, we got this!
This year has brought many struggles, just like any other year and for anyone else, I am sure. But I am happy to report a few of my highlights from 2011:
- I started and completed most of my education classes and made amazing teacher friends
- I worked as a night shift supervisor at the Testing Center, on the best shifts ever
- Megan and Josh got married! & I helped plan their reception here in Virginia
- I returned to the daycare I worked at in high school to work for the summer, and the kids were awesome
- I moved to a new apartment with my own room and rockin' roommates
- I learned to turn to the Lord and fight for my rights with my TESOL minor
- The whole family was together for Chrismas and New Year's
- Kurt came back from his mission!!!!
The years just keep getting better and better though, so bring 'em on! 2012, we got this!
Sunday, October 2, 2011
To Act or Be Acted Upon... That is the Question
This summer, working at the daycare, I had to deal with lots of tattling. Maybe some of it was legit, but it was hard to tell, especially when the issue at hand seemed life-altering to the little kid who's telling me about it. So to save myself the effort of sorting through he-said, she-said (though I started doing this on purpose to teach them a lesson as the summer went on), I focused on what they could do about the problem. Did they have to listen? Did they have to keep playing with that person? No. Did they think they were stupid, like John Bob said? No? Then John Bob must be wrong, so ignore him.
After I established this habit I found myself connecting it to Elder Bednar's talk from a previous conference about choosing to act instead of be choosing to be acted upon by others. His talk does not diminish the fact that people really say and do mean things, sometimes on purpose to be hurtful to us. He did, however, give us the responsibility to chose to view those actions.
Those kids will probably not remember that one moment when I told them to choose for themselves how to react, but that pattern of response has really taught me how to deal with those situations myself.
After I established this habit I found myself connecting it to Elder Bednar's talk from a previous conference about choosing to act instead of be choosing to be acted upon by others. His talk does not diminish the fact that people really say and do mean things, sometimes on purpose to be hurtful to us. He did, however, give us the responsibility to chose to view those actions.
Those kids will probably not remember that one moment when I told them to choose for themselves how to react, but that pattern of response has really taught me how to deal with those situations myself.
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Psychological Health is Good to Feel
First post in a long time, I know, I know. Not sayin I'm gonna be posting regularly (dad), but I'm ready to start thinking in blog posts again.
This post is named such because last semester, I wasn't in the best psychological health. Not that I had a disease or real disorder, I was just not happy. No one to blame for that but myself, really, because it's my brain and I'm the one that thinks the stuff in it. And for some reason, last semester I was really negative. BUT, I'm happy to report, my brain now is happy and rejuvenated and completely satisfied with life. I think I've come out of this experience knowing myself a little better and am decided that I will choose how to act instead of choosing to be acted upon.
Life is in my hands, and I say it will be wonderful. Hallelujah for a new semester, a new start, and a new attitude!
This post is named such because last semester, I wasn't in the best psychological health. Not that I had a disease or real disorder, I was just not happy. No one to blame for that but myself, really, because it's my brain and I'm the one that thinks the stuff in it. And for some reason, last semester I was really negative. BUT, I'm happy to report, my brain now is happy and rejuvenated and completely satisfied with life. I think I've come out of this experience knowing myself a little better and am decided that I will choose how to act instead of choosing to be acted upon.
Life is in my hands, and I say it will be wonderful. Hallelujah for a new semester, a new start, and a new attitude!
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Identity
Today in my Adolescent Development class we were talking about how adolescents develop their sense of identity. The girl who was teaching my group about the chapter mentioned that the book said that the person who entered adolescence was basically the same as the person who exited.
I felt like I changed a lot during my teenage years. We talked about "false-self behaviors" that many teenagers put on for different groups of people they interacted with. It's amazing that even though we act differently and try out new things, we eventually always come back to the core "me," who we always have been and always will be.
I thought I was outgoing and social in elementary school, somewhat so (with my friends) in high school, and have gotten progressively less so until recently. I always considered my core self be shy who only acted social sometimes, but I am reminded of a blessing that told me I would find that I truly enjoyed getting to know people. So maybe my "real" self is the confident, bubbly one? I just need to dig her out of me again.
Forming one's identity is a lifelong process. While I'm not sure about some things still, I am happy and content to feel like I know most of my core self. I know I am strong and capable and that I love to learn. I know I love to be at home and that I still can be successful and happy alone. I'm excited to get to know me the rest of the way, but I'm proud of the girl that I am so far!
I felt like I changed a lot during my teenage years. We talked about "false-self behaviors" that many teenagers put on for different groups of people they interacted with. It's amazing that even though we act differently and try out new things, we eventually always come back to the core "me," who we always have been and always will be.
I thought I was outgoing and social in elementary school, somewhat so (with my friends) in high school, and have gotten progressively less so until recently. I always considered my core self be shy who only acted social sometimes, but I am reminded of a blessing that told me I would find that I truly enjoyed getting to know people. So maybe my "real" self is the confident, bubbly one? I just need to dig her out of me again.
Forming one's identity is a lifelong process. While I'm not sure about some things still, I am happy and content to feel like I know most of my core self. I know I am strong and capable and that I love to learn. I know I love to be at home and that I still can be successful and happy alone. I'm excited to get to know me the rest of the way, but I'm proud of the girl that I am so far!
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
White LDS Third Daughter of Two Psychologists
I interrupt the ordinary posts on this blog to bring you an assignment for my Secondary Education: Multiculturalism class. This is my "cultural diorama;" objects that represent me, my values, and my past.
This 'H', handmade for me by my oldest sister Jaime, reflects my own love for crafting and making things. I am not very creative on my own, but I have found peace and success in seeing what others make and then piggybacking off their ideas.
Jaime also knew my love for music, which has played a large part in my life. I took piano lessons for a year as a child, but stopped them and have since practiced on my own instead. Singing in choirs and musicals and participating in the band program throughout public school gave me my identity, my friends, and my niche. Much of why I enjoyed high school so much and why I had a overwhelmingly happy adolescence was my association with the music programs in my school.
Lastly, this 'H' represents my name, Hilary. Here in Utah I have not found it to be very unique, but at home I rejoiced in being the only Hilary for miles around. Having a name that set me apart became a core part of who I wanted to be; I wanted to be somebody people could remember.
This basket full of Ensigns graces our living room in my apartment. This display combines my love for my religion and beliefs with my desire to create visually-pleasing environments. One day I was tired of how boring all our Ensigns looked just sitting flat on the table, so I rolled them up into the basket. My "decorating desire" has led me to many OCD-like behaviors including the need to straighten pictures, pick things up off the floor, and always have a clean and welcoming atmosphere for guests. I think that this want to visually please other people (through artwork, cleanliness, etc.) also stems from my desire to personally please people.
That desire also includes wanting to please Christ, which is reflected in my recent promises to myself that I will read the Ensign every night. Having these Ensigns sitting in our living room staring me in the face constantly reminds me of that promise!
My sisters molded me into who I am. They taught me about the big things and how I wanted to make decisions in my own life by choosing their own way before me. They also taught me how to be scared of the dark and be disgusted by bodily functions and things every girl should know. I have not always had a great relationship with all of my sisters, but my struggles with them have made me into the girl I am today.
Our parents (or at least my dad), as a note, actually wanted eight daughters. So the atmosphere we grew up in was very girl-friendly and accepting to groom us all into independent, powerful women.
Monday, March 14, 2011
[The Work Series]
III. Help a Brother Out
This post goes closely along with the last one about taking responsibility for yourself. Once you do that, however, you must also hold people to that same standard (like my parents did), or else they'll never learn, either.
One day last semester I discovered the show The Biggest Loser on hulu. I had heard from many friends that the show was amazing, so I watched al of the current season and have been following the new season as it goes. The basic premise is that a group of people compete in pairs to see who can lose the biggest percentage of body weight. (Not the point, but one thing I like about this show is it's focus on making a lifestyle change for the right reasons, not to look physically better.) Usually at the end of every week the person (or two people) who have lost the smallest percentage of body weight are in danger of going home.
One week the contestants were divided into teams with seven or so pairs per team. In this case, the team that had the lowest percentage of total weight lost would send home the worst-performing player. This season there were a lot of parent-children pairs, and the editing really focused on them and their turmoil about wanting to help their children stay on the show no matter what. How they interpreted that desire though was really interesting.
This is Moses and his daughter Kaylee. Moses was really worried about Kaylee going home, so he decided he would wake her up early every morning and do an extra workout on their own together. He pushed and motivated her harder that week than he had in the past, and they paid more attention to the meals they cooked and ate for themselves.
This is Denise and her daughter Sarah. Denise took the view of two other parents on her same team and decided to throw the weigh-in to make sure she was going home instead of her daughter. Denise purposely gained 8 pounds so she would be sent home. Other parents gained 1 or 3 pounds to protect their children.
Interesting fact: Both of these pairs are LDS. How each parent chose to tackle the situation at hand was interesting in light of the gospel, right? Moses gave his daughter the tools to succeed. He got Kaylee to care about her outcome and worked with her to make it happen. I imagine if Kaylee still had had to go home, they would have been content knowing they had done everything they could. On the other team, Denise and the other parents took it upon themselves to sacrifice for their children without telling them. They let their kids do whatever they wanted that week, knowing they would take the fall for them.
I'm not saying the sacrifice situation is bad; sometimes it is necessary. Think of Christ, who took one for the team for the rest of us to stay here "on the ranch" as the show calls it. But I prefer Moses' way of empowering his daughter Kaylee and sticking by the results "after all they could do". Instead of trying to avoid the possible outcome, they tackled it head on by doing their best. Denise took the consequence of her own actions, but did she teach her daughter to do the same?
Read part one.
Read part two.
One day last semester I discovered the show The Biggest Loser on hulu. I had heard from many friends that the show was amazing, so I watched al of the current season and have been following the new season as it goes. The basic premise is that a group of people compete in pairs to see who can lose the biggest percentage of body weight. (Not the point, but one thing I like about this show is it's focus on making a lifestyle change for the right reasons, not to look physically better.) Usually at the end of every week the person (or two people) who have lost the smallest percentage of body weight are in danger of going home.
One week the contestants were divided into teams with seven or so pairs per team. In this case, the team that had the lowest percentage of total weight lost would send home the worst-performing player. This season there were a lot of parent-children pairs, and the editing really focused on them and their turmoil about wanting to help their children stay on the show no matter what. How they interpreted that desire though was really interesting.
This is Moses and his daughter Kaylee. Moses was really worried about Kaylee going home, so he decided he would wake her up early every morning and do an extra workout on their own together. He pushed and motivated her harder that week than he had in the past, and they paid more attention to the meals they cooked and ate for themselves.
This is Denise and her daughter Sarah. Denise took the view of two other parents on her same team and decided to throw the weigh-in to make sure she was going home instead of her daughter. Denise purposely gained 8 pounds so she would be sent home. Other parents gained 1 or 3 pounds to protect their children.
Interesting fact: Both of these pairs are LDS. How each parent chose to tackle the situation at hand was interesting in light of the gospel, right? Moses gave his daughter the tools to succeed. He got Kaylee to care about her outcome and worked with her to make it happen. I imagine if Kaylee still had had to go home, they would have been content knowing they had done everything they could. On the other team, Denise and the other parents took it upon themselves to sacrifice for their children without telling them. They let their kids do whatever they wanted that week, knowing they would take the fall for them.
I'm not saying the sacrifice situation is bad; sometimes it is necessary. Think of Christ, who took one for the team for the rest of us to stay here "on the ranch" as the show calls it. But I prefer Moses' way of empowering his daughter Kaylee and sticking by the results "after all they could do". Instead of trying to avoid the possible outcome, they tackled it head on by doing their best. Denise took the consequence of her own actions, but did she teach her daughter to do the same?
Read part one.
Read part two.
Sunday, March 13, 2011
[The Work Series]
II. Taking Responsibility
I knew my Classical Civilizations teacher liked to use big words, but when he started a discussion on "moratoriums" I thought he was talking about something like a crematorium. I finally got that a moratorium was stopping work, and in this case referring to his and his TAs' response to emails submitted about the upcoming paper. The discussion was whether they should answer emails right up to the deadline (5:30 on Friday), or not guarantee an answer for two hours before the deadline (3:30) or for a day before (5:30 on Thursday). I thought it was kindof weird he was even asking us; I would never dare to ask my teacher a question about my paper thirty minutes before it was due and then get indignant when he didn't respond. Especially since this paper (and all others) had been assigned since the beginning of the year.
My thoughts were, if you started it late, finish it on your own. My professor had often stated his willingness to look over the whole paper and give comments if it was turned in a week before the deadline. By answering questions up to the minute the paper was due, they were simply encouraging procrastination by giving basically the same rewards to those who worked hard or not. When a student chose to procrastinate on the paper, they also chose the consequence of not having the teacher's immediate support.
This brought me back to high school, and how everyone's parents got them out of school if there was a project due or test that day. As if the teacher would just pretend the thing hadn't been assigned weeks ago. (Though it seemed like some teachers did go that route.) I remember sometimes thinking, "why won't MY parents just take me out of school like that?" but I don't remember any test or project that was so hard or treacherous I died because I did it the assigned day. My parents didn't pull me out of school because they wanted me to take responsibility for my actions. Whether I procrastinated on the assignment/studying or not, I needed to learn that consequences followed every action. Just because something hard was coming didn't mean I could get whisked away to Sick Day land. That's not how the real world is, or at least it shouldn't be. Oh dang, I have a really scary important interview today I don't want to go to. Let me call up Mom and we'll go on a shopping spree to cheer me up & I'll just put it off until tomorrow. This is life. Be accountable for our own.
Read part one.
My thoughts were, if you started it late, finish it on your own. My professor had often stated his willingness to look over the whole paper and give comments if it was turned in a week before the deadline. By answering questions up to the minute the paper was due, they were simply encouraging procrastination by giving basically the same rewards to those who worked hard or not. When a student chose to procrastinate on the paper, they also chose the consequence of not having the teacher's immediate support.
This brought me back to high school, and how everyone's parents got them out of school if there was a project due or test that day. As if the teacher would just pretend the thing hadn't been assigned weeks ago. (Though it seemed like some teachers did go that route.) I remember sometimes thinking, "why won't MY parents just take me out of school like that?" but I don't remember any test or project that was so hard or treacherous I died because I did it the assigned day. My parents didn't pull me out of school because they wanted me to take responsibility for my actions. Whether I procrastinated on the assignment/studying or not, I needed to learn that consequences followed every action. Just because something hard was coming didn't mean I could get whisked away to Sick Day land. That's not how the real world is, or at least it shouldn't be. Oh dang, I have a really scary important interview today I don't want to go to. Let me call up Mom and we'll go on a shopping spree to cheer me up & I'll just put it off until tomorrow. This is life. Be accountable for our own.
Read part one.
Sunday, March 6, 2011
[The Work Series]
I. Deserving Your Dreams
At almost any job it is easy to see see clearly divided groups of workers; those who are always looking for work to do, and those who are always looking for ways to get out of the work to do. Those who have a good work ethic are delightful to be around and make the load much easier on the rest of us. Those who are lacking in work ethic, however, get me annoyed because they are getting paid the same amount as the good workers.
I guess the easy thing is just to say, "someone else will do it." Because, since the world also has some good workers, it will (eventually). We have a lot of temptations not to work, like talking to our coworkers, eating snacks, texting, etc. But, as our boss said in a recent note, "there is always work to do if you look around for it."
Perhaps this bothers me more now that I am a supervisor, as it's easier to see how the Testing Center as a whole would work much more efficiently if people actually worked for their money. Also because when I was just a regular worker before becoming a supervisor, I worked hard. It wasn't that hard, why can't people just do it?
I also think of a song Mom introduced me to this Christmas Break. One of the phrases is, "nothing can compare to deserving your dreams," and it is so true. Not that being a supervisor was something I wished for every night before I went to bed, but I really hoped it would happen. And now that it did, I feel great. Not to be prideful, but I truly feel that I deserved that dream. I proved myself as a regular worker even when our boss and other supervisors weren't looking, and now that I'm in that position, I don't feel bad asking other people to get to work because I can say I did all that work, too, just like you!
I guess the moral of this part of the series is that it truly does feel better to know that you deserve your dreams. That you didn't get them just because you were in the right place at the right time, or they needed a body to fill a spot, or you tricked and manipulated your way to the top. Good work is rewarded with happiness.
“When our wagon gets stuck in the mud, God is much more likely to assist the man who gets out to push than the man who merely raises his voice in prayer—no matter how eloquent the oration." - President Dieter F. Uchtdorf
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